Questions Family Caregivers Should Ask Their Loved One

By Rachelle Ehlert

Providing care for a loved one is a significant responsibility. Communication is key to ensuring both you and your loved one are comfortable and that they are receiving the care they need. Here are some important questions to ask your aging parent or another loved one you care for.

1. What are your specific needs and preferences?

Start by discussing your loved one's daily routines, medical conditions, and dietary preferences. Ask about any other personal preferences, like favorite soap brands, to tailor your care to their specific needs.

2. How do you like to spend your time?

Understand your loved one's hobbies, interests, and activities that bring them joy. Then, you can incorporate these activities into the activities you plan for your loved one at home.

3. What are your goals and aspirations for your care?

When caring for an older adult, ask about any goals or things they would like to achieve or experience while receiving care. Work together to make those goals a reality.

4. What kind of support do you need from me?

Inquire about the level of assistance your loved one comfortable with you providing. Remember that asking for help can be difficult for your loved one, so you might not always get an answer straight away. Ask about tasks they would like you to help with, keeping in mind their desire for independence.

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5. What makes you feel comfortable and safe?

Learn about the environmental or emotional factors that contribute to your loved one's sense of comfort and security. Try to accommodate those preferences in the care you provide.

6. How would you like to handle decisions about your care?

Discuss what to do when big decisions come up. For example, how should you approach financial decisions. Talk about responsibilities you can take on and which ones your loved ones want to control.

7. Do you have any concerns or worries about your care or health?

Encourage your loved one to express any fears or concerns about their health. Reassure your loved ones that you're there to address them together.

8. How would you like to communicate and stay connected with family and friends?

Ensure that your loved one has the means to stay in touch with loved ones and socialize. Today, they can keep in touch with family members or friends through phone calls, video chats, or visits.

9. Is there anything you'd like me to learn or research for your benefit?

Learn more about specific medical conditions, treatments, or other topics that can enhance care. For example, Alzheimer's disease and related disorders.

10. Are there any boundaries or privacy considerations I should be aware of?

Respect your loved one's need for personal space and privacy. Discuss how you can maintain those boundaries while ensuring safety.

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11. What are your preferred meal options and dietary restrictions?

When caring for a family member, discuss their food preferences and any dietary restrictions. Work on a meal plan that suits your loved one's taste and health needs.

12. How can I best support your emotional well-being?

Understand how you can provide emotional support and be attuned to your loved one's feelings and moods.

13. How would you like to handle emergency situations or unexpected events?

Develop a plan for handling emergencies or medical issues. Talk about whom to contact and what to do in an emergency.

14. What can I do to make your living space more comfortable and accessible?

Modify the living space as needed to ensure safety and comfort. This could include adding extra lighting, installing grab bars in the bathroom, and other home adjustments.

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15. Do you have any feedback or suggestions on how I can improve as your caregiver

Encourage open communication and a feedback loop to enhance the care you provide.

Remember, caregiving is a dynamic process, and ongoing communication is essential. Regularly asking these types of questions can help you assess how your loved one is doing. And their answers can help you enhance the quality of care you provide. Your willingness to listen and adapt will help ensure both your loved one's comfort and your effectiveness as a caregiver.

If you need help caring for a loved one, reach out to the experts at Caring Senior Service. We can provide respite care to give you a break so you can recharge. Reach out to your local Caring team to learn more.

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