Holiday Time Is Joyful, But Be Watchful Of A Senior’s Changing Needs
November 12, 2008
Pat Abernathey
In today’s United States, many Americans do not live in the same town as their parents. This makes the holidays an eagerly-anticipated time as it is often the only opportunity for those who live far away from one another to spend time together.
Often, however, what is anticipated as a joyful occasion can be a reality check. Elderly loved ones may have reached a point where they need help with daily activities, unbeknownst to family members. It can come as a real shock to a son or daughter to see their mother or father – often a rock of inspiration in the past – not caring about the house, not eating, not keeping up with their appearance or worse.“It is so important for family members to be honest about the situation,” said Jeff Salter, President and Founder of Caring Senior Service. “If the signs are there that an elderly loved one needs help with daily activities, early action can help avoid major problems.”
A senior who is having problems walking is a fall risk. Complications after falls are the leading cause of premature deaths in the elderly. Assistance in the home, such as that provided by Caring Senior Service, can help prevent falls.
Medication mistakes and lack of compliance are also frequent symptoms of an elderly person needing help in the home. It is estimated that between 40 and 60 percent of all nursing home admissions in the United States are caused by medication mistakes or not taking prescriptions correctly.
“A major incident such as a fall or a driving accident will lead to action,” Salter says. “But when the signs are less obvious – apathy towards once-beloved activities, not eating, trouble waking, forgetfulness – is when a family member needs to extra vigilant.”
Salter reminds loved ones of the elderly to observe and take warning signs seriously. He cautions that seniors are not always receptive to the offer of help, so loved ones must remember that persistence may save the life of the one they love.
“Most elderly persons have lived independently all their lives, they built our nation,” he said. “It may be seen as a loss of empowerment. But when the risks of living alone are weighed, and help is experienced, most seniors are very thankful that their loved ones cared enough to take action.”
Salter recommends family members look for these signs, including looking a little deeper:
• Confusion, depression, apathy and forgetfulness – Is the house being kept? Are dress and appearance no longer important? Is a favorite past time now shrugged off?
• Dehydration, poor nutrition – Look in the refrigerator. What is in there? How long has it been there? Is it stocked or empty? Is your loved one drinking enough fluids?
• Lack of personal hygiene, incontinence – When movement is difficult, bathing becomes a chore.
• Evidence of unsafe driving – Sometimes this is the most difficult conversation to have.
• Wandering and falling – How is your loved one taking steps up or down? Do they wander at night?
• Not taking medications – Read prescription bottles. Ask for details.
• Disorientation – Small episodes can be telling signs.
